I feel so immensely guilty when I ask for things and questions.
There’s just something that I used to feel was so…forbidden? Not quite the right word. I felt that I shouldn’t have to ask for things, that I was intruding upon what my place was, that I shouldn’t have people take time out of their day to have to do things for me. That it was imposing. And there is a definite gendered nature.
Try to notice the next time you see a man and a woman ask for things. Even in the way they say ‘can’ versus ‘could’, in the way they phrase their question, if they say sorry before (like I sometimes want to do when asking questions), little things like that.
You may notice a difference, I did.
It’s kind of similar to my last post about posture, having self confidence and owning up to the space you have.
No man is an island, and at some point we will need to ask people for things. It should be okay to ask questions, even encouraged.
Maybe more on this later, but it’s just something to notice.