I don’t think I ask for a lot in terms of romance. I’m not one of those people who wants jewelry or elaborate gifts on anniversaries. I like a well thought out planned in advance gift. Something that they think I will enjoy, that I may have talked about. I would say I am a romantic, but perhaps not a very materialistic one. I love keeping momentos around, notes in the morning, cards from years ago, wrapping paper. I love to surround myself with pieces of love.
And also, as a side note, this isn’t a post to hint about presents or what not for an anniversary!
I like things like a romantic evening that is modeled after a first meeting, or a scrapbook of things from the year. I like small tasty gestures. I don’t care about going to the fanciest place and getting the most expensive earrings. I like a sophisticated simplicity. I don’t feel like I settle for any of these things.
In the past, I haven’t have much experience with romantic gifts or romance. I don’t remember a lot of dates I had in my last relationship, or any gifts at all. To me, romantic gestures throughout the year are the more meaningful, not just an annual trinket. But because I didn’t get a lot of that typical romantic experience when I was younger, I wonder how much of my views are whether I really want it or just have lowered my expectations.
I’m by no means unhappy, but it’s a food for thought kind of thing.
But because I am a romantic, I do like the whole getting ready for the date, making sure everything is perfect, the total experience, not a price tag. I guess it doesn’t help that I love wrapping presents.
I just wonder if there is somewhere deep inside a little fragment of me that would like one of those beautiful romantic gestures. I know that for every person it’s different and for every couple and what I have now is enough for me. But I used to really desire those type of things, and never getting them sort of dulled that down.
I am definitely not unhappy, but just thinking about how I have changed as a person from the last relationship to this.
An interesting thought experiment.