Unconventional

I have been known to be somewhat unconventional. I’ve marched to my own tune and stuck to it. A couple of things have surfaced in this regard in relation to my marriage/wedding.

1. The engagement ring. I prefer wearing mine on my middle finger. I think it has a wonderful symmetry to it and I just genuinely like it there. On my ring finger it looks a little out of place. I used to wear a lot of jewelry, in comparison to now, but now I have gotten out of that habit.
2. Changing my name. I like my name and have no intention, for now, of changing it. Maybe if we have kids it would be easier, and I’ll think about that when the time comes.
3. Dress. I wanted to wear my wedding dress every anniversary, so I get more use out of it, and so it would be a special memory of these two celebrations we share.

I know I’ll probably wear my wedding band on my ring finger (which is the question), but these are the questions I have gotten so far. Mostly about the ring. But we shall see what I decide to do when I get the other one. My mind isn’t made up in stone, nor is this a grand statement, just personal preferences.

People didn’t recognize me as engaged without the ring, or the dress and that mattered to me for a while. But then I thought how crazy it is that I wear this one symbol and it’s a sign to the world of this. When I don’t feel particularly different. It made me question it. Why I wanted people to know, or strangers to congratulate me. But I have found the happiness, the inner pleasure, I have in being engaged (or what not) in myself. I’m not saying it’s wrong to want others to congratulate you, I think it’s such a nice moment. But for me, it made me really think about what it was I wanted and why.